Day III: Putting things into Action
"Everyone has a monster in themselves. Sometimes, we fight them every day and lose against them. But, what if you can win a few battles and slowly, over time, pull yourself out?"
Today's topic is breaking down the I Ams into actions. What I mean by this is that just thinking about it isn't enough. You have to put things into action. The world will give you chances to test these I Ams out.
So, let's start with a simple one: "I am confident."
The definition of confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.
So, what does one need to do to bring confidence? Well, look at what you want to learn for yourself. What do you want to challenge yourself with to grow?
I have wanted to be able to ride a motorcycle since I was a teenager. So, one day, when I was able to be given that chance, I went to learn how to ride a motorcycle. Let me tell you, the first day wasn't easy. I had so many thoughts crossing my mind to quit as I was the only girl there. It was embarrassing to have so many eyes on me as they were other students, but I stuck to it and passed. I even got my license, and after that first step, I was able to go out and do it again and again. My next major goal for this is to just learn how to do deep turns where your knees are literally scraping the ground. I know it sounds insane, but this was what I wanted to do. So, I did it.
The amount of confidence-boosting that I have gained just from that was tremendous. It was an achievement that I have wanted to do in my lifetime, and it was done.
So, what did I do next to gain more confidence? Well, I walked the runway at fashion shows because I am still afraid of a large number of crowds. I can still feel it to my bones when the eyes are staring and going up that stage. Every step, my legs feel like jelly as I try not to look dead when walking that stage. I remember when my legs almost gave out at the end a few times. Holy crap, I thought I was going to fall, but luckily I caught myself and turned around, and left the stage. Either way, the goal was to tame this fear of being in the presence of people. I still have it, don't get me wrong, but it has become much more manageable than before.
Let's move to another I am. "I am able to say No when I feel like I don't want to do it."
This is a significant milestone for me. I had a hard time in the past to say "No." No, because I did not feel comfortable in doing something, or No, I don't want to do it because it takes up my time and I wanted to go home. How simple the word "No" is, but I was pushed around to do something that I didn't want to do.
There is a difference between wanting to help out of the goodness of my heart and wanting to give up my time to service because I wanted to. Nobody else's, compared to other people pushing their agenda on me to do the things that they wanted me to do. See the difference?
Let's do one more. "I Am healthy."
This one can range from working out to eating right to even sleeping. Everything falls under the topic of Health. So what do you do to stay healthy?
For me, Healthy means exercising, sleeping, and eating right that fits my body type. Of course, those are three different topics, but they are all important.
So, break the I Am healthy into three different topics. I am exercising five times a week. I am eating healthy. I am sleeping enough to not be sleepy. There are more I am you can break down being healthy into. Figure out your focus of what you will give up to gain.
The topic of Health will not be conquered in one day. The key to good health is discipline. I know…that words would make anyone cringe. Even I still don't like it but this is important. Health is a daily thing and something you have to work on constantly every day. There is no cure-all magic voodoo crap that happens in an instant.
I had to block out parts of my time that incorporated exercises. Some people can only do thirty minutes, others more, but the point is to be at the gym or at your own living room with a yoga mat and doing the activity. From there, you build up over time.
We are moving creatures; staying still makes us….comfortable, and there is no growth in comfort. You have to step out of your comfort zone.
So, now under each, I Am's what are you going to do to challenge yourself to become this person that you envision?
Anyways, let me continue onwards to slaying those monsters and bringing value into yourself! See you in the next post. Stay tuned!